Happy, happy, happy Friday, ladies! April never looked so good. I’m really enjoying Spring right now. Hope you are too.
Well, I’ve been finding my momentum and kicking up a little speed. Enough speed to keep up everything I got going on and finding a nice balance to it. Managing my time better, particularly. And as easy as it sounds, it’s not. I mean, in a perfect world, it would be.
But things happen. I leave work late. Traffic through downtown is always hot mess, especially anywhere near on an on-ramp. I’ll get a same day notary client I need to see. Email correspondences I’ve neglected from earlier in the day. Over the course of a few minutes, it feels like there’s always something coming up making it harder to get important projects completed.
So I schedule in myself. I schedule myself in my calendar like I was one of my freelance clients. I block off a few hours a week and only work on stuff for me during that block. And it helps. More than I thought it would. I don’t get everything done but I get the ball rolling and as long as the ball is moving, so am I. For the moment, that’s what I’m gonna do.
It’s about time I start sharing what my hustle looks like, don’t ya think? Right now I’m in an Uber heading southbound to provide notary services for a client I received via Omega Homestead Remodeling. I was contacted by them via Craigslist. His assistant, Elizabeth, called me with the deets. So, here I am having a lovely conversation with Christopher, my driver who is also a options trader.
Working through a headache right now, not entirely sure if it was brought on my eating so late in the day or by clients who insist on monopolizeing my time. But I’m trying my best to work through the pain. Found some visual aids online how to use pressure points to alleviate the pain in my head. And speaking of pain, my biggest pressure points are time thieves.
Time thrives? These are people who have no regard for your time because they don’t care how they spend their own. I’m sure I’ve ranted about this before. Quite positive, actually. And I’ll continue to rant.
I think it’s absurd that people don’t know how to shut themselves off. Great, you have a lot to say. I can’t and don’t always want to hear I, though. Like many other people don’t want to hear it. And as talkative people, you need to learn to read body language. If someone is backing away from you while you’re talking, they’re trying to escape. If someone is clicking around on the computer while you’re talking, they’re trying to send you a message.
People, please… I beg of you. I envy social butterfly types. I do, really do. But I don’t always have the patience for you. So, please. Become intuitive. Learn when people have had enough. Don’t become a middle of the day pressure point.
I had a portfolio a while ago. It was horrible. At least, it was horrible to me. It was – I don’t know – too simple. Too lacking. Too something of what I didn’t want. But I feel I need a portfolio. I feel like I can offer more than I am and I have so much to give and do and that I’m not harnessing my best self in the world out there.
Now, Elle and I have been talking a bit as to what I would call myself title-wise. I wouldn’t limit myself to my job and I do so many odd jobs as it is, it’s hard to neatly fit it in a box and present it to strangers.
Ideally, I want my portfolio to be a digital landscape of my work and potential. And I want it to garner me freelance projects. But finding my scope is a little more challenging than I realize. So, I thought I would display myself on a webpage and see what comes to me in the building process. I’ve already purchased the domain name and email account, so I can at least present a sense of professionalism, when contacted.
Listen, I’m not working this hard for puppies and rainbows. I’m on a mission. And it needs to show.
I’m a big advocate for building a tribe. I talk about it as work but I also talk about it among my tribe, ironically enough, because I believe so whole-heartedly in having people in our lives that we vibe with. I think it’s important that we have people who understand us and share our ambitions. This dual lifestyle we live isn’t easy. Juggling everything all the time isn’t fun or delightful. And those that aren’t hustling or don’t have a side gig would simply tell us to stop if we’re so tired, or so overwhelmed, or so confused or whatever else we feel so often. But they don’t understand the “why”.
They see someone doing too much and do they say stop. We see someone doing too little and ask why they haven’t started. And then we have a clash of energies. And we do clash with people who don’t get it. We clash with people who aren’t striving for similar self-rewarding goals. They’re just doing enough to get by. That’s fine for them. But obviously, that’s not fine for us. Which is why we hustle. We grind. We strive. We aim. Yet, we also need to understand it isn’t fine to be around the energy of those that do too little.
I don’t know who said it, but I heard that it’s easier to be influenced to do less and give up than it is to do more and achieve. Probably because most people aren’t big on achieving. A lot of people as they get older stop setting goals. They stop making plans. If you want to achieve anything, you need to keep setting goals. You need to keeping aiming for something. People who just want to get by doing the bare minimum have no goals. They have no direction. And they are worst kind of energy to be around.
At least for high achievers and hustlers. See, we have a reason and a purpose for what we do. So when someone tells us to stop, it’s because they are tired of comparing themselves to us. And if we stop working so hard, were just like them. Executing the bare minimum and accepting less from ourselves.
Ladies, don’t. I don’t care who’s telling you to stop or you’re doing too much. Keep up the hustle. You got your reasons and you have your goals. Just focus on that. And those bad energy people, just gently nudge them away. They’re not ready to see success. And don’t they need to be tearing down yours.
Okay, so maybe I’m a little late asking this question, but I am curious… did you get your taxes done? It’s April 15th and Uncle Sam — who already knows how much you’ve earned last year as well as how money you owe or will be getting back — wants to know did you take the time to tell him again about your earnings. And not risk disturbing the restless giant that is the IRS, I want to make sure you’re on “its” good side as far as timelines.
Listen, I procrastinated too this year. I really dragged my ass when it came to filing my taxes, but once I started I was happy to have gotten it over with. Now, I’ll just wait to for my state return to be deposited in my savings account, which I’ve also nicknamed “Dream Home Fund”. And I’ll wait to see if I’ll get my measly federal return or will William D. Ford of the Department of Education apply it to my stagnant student loan bill.
Exciting things when it comes to taxes.
Point being, I hope you finished filing your taxes. The idea of requesting a an extension doesn’t sound fun. It sounds more like pulling off a band aid really slowly.
I was reading article from a Rachel Bitte, a contributing writer for The Muse, a website that discusses all things work, employment and getting hired related and she was addressing the legal layout of side hustling. I love reading about side hustling from other perspectives and learning something new. I make time to read every piece of content I come across about about side gigs because I’m really passionate about having side hustles. I live to hustle.
However, I was really upset after reading her article that I couldn’t even finish it in the first read-through. I had to come back to it in a calmer state of mind. Now, I understand that she is discussing the legalities of having or starting a side hustle and making sure people don’t jeopardize their full-time, rent-paying, keeping-the-lights-on job. I get that. But I don’t think she’s well versed in the reasons why people start hustling. She starts off by saying “maybe you love your job”. What the hell? Does she not know that studies have shown that between 75% and 85% of people in the U.S. hate their jobs? Those same people who hate their jobs actively look for other jobs while at their current job. Who is Rachel referring to? She talks about starting a passion project as a side hustle. Logically, I would think that if you love your job it would be in line with your passion. Yes, it’s possible to love more than one thing, but someone who loves their job and is dedicated to the work and the company and the mission of the company — does that sound like someone who’s gonna start a side hustle? For the heck of it? Really?
Then she goes to talk about speaking with your HR or company representative to make sure you’re not violating any non-compete clauses. That, I understand IF your side hustle is directly related to your work in your full time job. If not, what you do from 5pm to 9am is no one’s business but yours. Telling your boss about your side hustle is the equivalent to tell your employer you get hammered every Wednesday evening. That’s scary, if you do, but that’s none of their business. Just like your side hustle is none their business.
Then Ms. Rachel goes on to having the person confirm with boss or employer that they’re 100% committed to their full time job. NO THEY’RE NOT. People start a side for two main reasons: they need to earn more money that they’re not making at their full time jobs or their full time jobs aren’t completely fulfilling them professionally. That’s it. If you love your job and are getting paid what you feel you are worth, chances are you’re not side hustling. There’s nothing wrong that. But the notion that side hustling is a decision made whimsically and light-heartedly is foolishness. RACHEL, it’s foolishness.
I’ve included the link to the article below. Tell me what you think. Am I being too dramatic? Mind you, I take side hustling seriously.
I am over the moon to announce my upcoming book “A Single Woman’s Guide to Side Hustling “. This was a year long project I’ve been working on and I’m excited to be releasing it with the world. Or, you know, a handful of readers. I decided last year to write something for all of my would-be side hustlin’ ladies and now that the project is complete, I cannot wait to share with you.
I get real about my life experiences, people in my life and what I’ve done/do to make my side hustles worth my time. I hope you’re able to purchase a copy. I’ll have an eBook and hard copy version available. And would love to hear your honest feedback once you had a chance to read it.
It’ll be published and available for purchase at the end of April. Yay!
So much has been heavy on my heart heavy on my mind lately. Everyday I have worked to be a better version of myself and everyday I make strides and progress, and some days I regress then begin to progress and make strides again. Bettering yourself isn’t any easy task as it seems. You wake up and say, “Imma be a better version of myself” and that is as far as it goes; you telling yourself. In life, we have to put more ACTION into our words. More ACTION into our lives. More ACTION into the things we want out of life. Remember, the first step in anything we do is all MENTAL. I have been on a transformational journey for almost a year now and I went from making strides to making progress. I am nowhere near where I see myself being, but that is the beauty in the journey. You never know where it is going to take you, but you learn something new about yourself, the world, or other people in each phase. While I have mostly been in the phase of losing weight and being more consistent with adopting healthier habits when it comes to eating and physical activity, I know that over the pass year this is what is leading up to my next phase which dives more into my spiritual side. I can feel it. I can literally feel my spiritual side seeping into my body through my mind, my thoughts, my words. Everyday less of what use to matter doesn’t matter anymore. I am finding that being at peace is more important to me than money and material things. I have seen my growth over the past year and while I am proud of what I have done, I am even more anxious to evolve even more into who I am meant to be. Who is that you ask? Not even I know, but I am excited to meet her as I blown into what nature has intended for me to be. Here are some ways that I have been able to evolve over the past year and see growth in the way I think, act, and do, as well as how others views and treat me.
I decided mentally that I needed to change, and that began with recognizing that I wasn’t living up to my full potential, and taking accountability for what I wasn’t doing for myself.
The above led me to mentally decided to make my health and overall wellness a priority. This is where the shift began. If you are unaware, what you consume affects every aspect of your life. Changing my eating habits alone gave me mental clarity.
Physical activity became another phase after I started eat better. this helped me build stamina, confidence, and the drive to continue pushing on my journey.
I can’t say that I stuck with my journey consistently, that would be false. I’ve had ups and downs, but when I realized my fuck ups and the impact it had I quickly got right back to the plan. So, the question I leave you with today is….
How are you going to put forth more ACTION into your life today and going forward?
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