*Had to share this article I found on LinkedIn. And although I’m all about the side hustle and letting that blossom into your dream career, there something very powerful stated in this article about one’s worth that i think every woman should hear, regardless of color.*
How women of color are tripling their salaries and closing the wage gap
Just… happy Friday. It seems sometimes we make happiness the be all to end with life events to measure by and big gestures so the whole world knows we’re happy. But, that’s hardly ever the case.
Within a day of one another, two people I consider to be part of my tribe shared with me the personal struggles they’ve been battling in aiming to reach their goals. Family troubles, money troubles, just all of it has been weighing on their hearts and mind. So much so they’ve felt consumed by those thoughts of late.
Not much I could do but remind them to find the things that make them happy that involves no one else but themselves and no money. Just… happy things.
Today, I hope you all do the same. The hustle can feel like a rat race in itself. So find time and things that bring you joy and make you happy.
I don’t know who needs to hear this (everyone who wants to have a hustle), but you need to pick up a copy – digital or in print – of my newest book, The Singl Woman’s Guide to Side Hustling.
Some of the positive feedback I’ve gotten is that it’s an easy read. It’s easy to follow and explains everything clearly.
And you find the book on Amazon!
Don’t laugh at me. But my goal this week is to get more sleep. I started going to bed earlier than I normally do last week and I find myself feeling… almost more refreshed. At least more refreshed than I feel with only six hours of sleep. Seven hours of sleep or more really makes a difference. Seriosuly!
And I have my hustle reasons for doing getting more sleep. Obviously, I find that I perform better at work with more sleep in my system and that carries over into my hustles. Im able to plan more, be more creative, accept and work on more assignments. Getting more sleep has helped with all of that. So I want to continue with the momentum of getting more sleep a night to do more with the hours I have when I’m awake.
That means sacrificing fun time and instead having focus time. Time to just focus on the things that matter and will propel me to where I want to be. No more playing fishdom when I’m bored and in a brain lock. If I’m already embracing the benefits of getting a good night’s sleep, then I need to embrace that sacrifices that come with it as well.
After all, my hustle depends on it.
Above is a screenshot of a text I had with a very good friend of mine last night. We texted and chatted for over and hour and he started admitting how frustrated he’s been feeling with his life lately. He feels that no matter how hard he works and do right by the people he cares about, he keeps getting screwed over. And it’s been making him not want to pursue his own business anymore.
Which makes me sad to hear that, but I know exactly how he feels. Having been in similar situations feeling frustrated with life and the fruit I wasn’t able to produced from my labor.
And as we continued to talk with him, the more I realize how many of us big dreamers feel the same way when things are veering off track and how many have similar experiences we share. I always tell people it takes more lumber to build a mansion than it does a shack. So if you have big dreams, you’re gonna have to wait a minute. Yet, us big dreamers find ourselves frequently battling the comparison bar. We wonder why everyone else we see seem to have it better than us. Why not us? Why are we working so hard and have so little to show for it? I mean, I’ve been side hustling for 10 years and this is the first time I feel like I’m on a roll with something. So, why the elongated journey?
Big dreamers come with big blueprints. Which comes with contingencies. Setbacks. Resource mapping. And multiple visits to the drawing board. That’s just reality for us.
My friend is going to take some time out and hopefully find a way to safely diffuse his anger and frustration, but that’s something we all may need to do from time to time. Especially when we feel tired of the grind and nothing seems to be coming from it.
Like I told my friend, this is just life’s way of asking you how bad do you want a better lifestyle and livelihood.
Hey, hey, hey… good evening, everyone.
I know I was a little radio silent last week. I hadn’t deserted you or the blog. Just needed a week to step away and regather my thoughts and make some plans. Such as… I’ve been working on recruiting another contributing writer for thr blog. Waiting for her confirmation, so I’m excited about that.
Beem brainstorming about my next venture as a side hustle coach. Nervous and excited. Nervous about the execution of the busines more than anything. Still brainstorming the name. Working on creating programs for the new ventures. Just working with the momentum I have and trying to do big things quietly.
So, let’s continue to march forward .
Yesterday was a good money day for me. Correction: yesterday, was a good financial day for me.
About 4pm I confirmed a notary client that initially wanted to meet in Silver Lake, then later in Glendale. That allowed me to negotiate a higher travel fee, and upon arrival, what turned out to be two signatures, doubled to four. 13 miles from home and seven minutes of my time turned into a $95 service I was paid for.
On the way home from said notary client, I noticed Navient sent me an email regarding my next student loan repayment invoice. And I didn’t want to hear, especially since I had just got finished paying this month’s bill. But as I was reading the email notice – then later confirmed when I logged online to the website – my payment fee had dropped roughly $66.
Okay. I can get on board that. That doesn’t mean more money for me to spend, just that I gotta get wiser how I use the money I’m “saving”.
And to add the cherry on my pie, I learned through my credit card app and banking app that my credit score had jumped 28 points.
I feel as if I’m on a very good financial high. Like, if I continue to curtail my unnecessary spending, monitor my credit, pay down/off debt and save for my future, I really might get to that lovely I often see in my head and call my “future life”.
How’s your financial week looking?
I’ve been texting a prospect notary client for over the course of 30 minutes. She found my ad on Craig’s list and needed someone to meet her at the Long Beach county (it’s actually the Century Regional Detention Facility) to have her wife sign a document to get their/her car out of impound.
Sure. $15 for the notarization. $40 for my travel fee, after all it’s outside of my service area. The last time I had to appear at jail for a client, we just had one of their officer people get the guy. Uh-uh. Not for this facility. They want you to create an account, make an appointment online a week in advance. I mean, damn!
So, I’m just waiting to see what the client says. Some of the challenges I face, as I continue to learn all about the reasons why someone needs a notary.
Happy Friday everyone!
For my peeps in SoCal, did you feel the earthquake yesterday? Whoa! That was a pretty big one, right? They initially reported it as 6.6 magnitude. I was in my apartment when it hit and it felt like a rolling motion. And my apartment unit sits in the third floor, so it felt stronger higher up rather than if I was in the ground.
But I sat through it like it was nothing. Because it kind of was. I’ve lived in California all my life. It’s the small price we pay to also have had 75° weather on the 4th of July.
Listen, I’m a part time small business owner. I have side hustles. I’m used to rolling with the punches… or in the case, the earthquake. Things happen out of nowhere. And I gotta roll with them. They very same way you do. We do all.
So, let the after shocks come. We’re still going to be here. Becoming our own movers and shakers.