Staying Motivated: Took a Short Hiatus

Hey, hey, hey… good evening, everyone.

I know I was a little radio silent last week. I hadn’t deserted you or the blog. Just needed a week to step away and regather my thoughts and make some plans. Such as… I’ve been working on recruiting another contributing writer for thr blog. Waiting for her confirmation, so I’m excited about that.

Beem brainstorming about my next venture as a side hustle coach. Nervous and excited. Nervous about the execution of the busines more than anything. Still brainstorming the name. Working on creating programs for the new ventures. Just working with the momentum I have and trying to do big things quietly.

So, let’s continue to march forward .

Get Motivated: Meet, Network, Chat Up, Repeat

Yes, I’m still high from attending the Girlboss Rally this weekend. And over those two days, I was reminded of something very important we women do but shouldn’t: we carry the burden of work – whatever work we do – all alone as if we’re the only ones experiencing our sort or level or dedication and standard.

Taking a page from the business consultant, Ivy Slater, we get more work done when we ask for support. Whether we need to go to a women’s conference such as the Girlboss Rally to be reminded of this. Or if need to ask out closest friend, like Elle is to me, to contribute to our blog, we need to ask for support. We need to network. Meet up with other like minded women, share our work or what we’re working on. Not for validation or for compliments. But for support. Our there is our tribe… let’s meet them halfway.

Stay Motivated: Burnout Sucks

And I know this from personal experiences. Not one time. Multiple times. And because I’m so hungry to get a viable business of my own up and running successfully, I’ve burned myself out multiple times.

What is burnout exactly?

Stretching yourself – the things you’ve committed to accomplish – so thin that you feel overwhelmed and inundated that you no longer want to do anything. If you have clients in the pipeline, burnout sucks ten times more. Because finding the strength to encourage and hype yourself up to continue forward is harder when you’ve given your word and deadline.

Side hustlers are not immune to burnout just because their projects or freelance work is on a smaller scale. Every business started small and probably went the the same frustrations you’ve felt.

I would equate about 20% of my past failures are due to burnout. Simply because when you get to that burnt out stage, it’s hard to stay motivated long enough to pull yourself out. It’s hard to reignite that fire. Burnout can take you over for weeks or months. And I won’t begin to tell you how many projects and opportunities you can miss in that time.

But there are signs of burnout you can look out for to better avoid fizzing out especially when you’re juggling so much already.

For starters, get sleep. I should be telling myself this, but I’ll start with you. Get as much sleep as your day will allow. Right now I’m getting 6 hours of sleep a night. So when I get home, it’s hard to find the will to work on client’s work. I need at least 7.5 hours of sleep a night. No joke. I need to feel rested in order to feel productive. And I’m sure you do too.

Find small wins. Sometimes clearing your bed off is enough. Don’t laugh. I know it doesn’t sound like much, but just completing one small task will make you feel you get can get things done.

Self care yourself. Mediate. Soak your feet. Take a bath. Listen to bossa nova music on YouTube. Have a couple of glasses of wine. Pull yourself away from work and physically feel free even if it’s only for a little bit.

Take a week off. If you can’t take a week off from work, take a week off from your projects. I had to learn to take breaks early on so I wouldn’t break down. That drive yourself into the ground philosophy is not a healthy approach and you cannot sustain that way. So don’t do it. Having bouts of power boosts, sure! Keeping that intensity up for a year… uh, good luck. ‘Cause you’re gonna need a break shortly after that mental marathon.

Point being, don’t let yourself burn our especially if you’re working towards a bigger goal with your side hustle. Take time to really become someone and create something you can be proud of without falling apart.

Stay Motivated: Check-In With Your Tribe

I’ve been guilty of drowning in my own mess of stuff that I forget to check in on other people who I enjoy having in my life, who I value and who I consider to be a part of my tribe. I make excuses trying explain or justify that I gotta just do me. That something something came up. Or, maybe I just avoid calling the person. But we, as women, are not only great communicators. We are extremely empathetic and sympathetic. For us not to be in touch with one another is a great loss to our connection.

So since everyone (ideally) is checking the bank accounts, how much they’re saving and the improvements their budgets could use, check in on your friends. Check in your loved ones. Definitely check in on your tribe! Make sure they’re doing all right. Offer yourself to their aid. Make yourself available in the near future. Your tribe is in your life for a reason and not just to bounce ideas off, but to bond. To share experiences. To connect.

If you haven’t sent that text, or Instagram message or email. Do so. Most people my age don’t call. But I do, because I play an adult in real life. So I also call. I do my best to remind myself that just like I have days I get caught up. The same applies to them.

So, check in on your tribe. Make sure everything is good with them. Connect. You’re on each others team for a reason.

Stay Motivated: Keep Going Especially When Things Are Good

I’m hoping to go to another Dodger’s game this Friday. They’re playing Cubs. Not that it matters, as I would watch any game they play. Huge fan. And as I’m getting in the spirit of the game to come, I pulled up YouTube and watched a couple of docuseries about Cody Bellinger. 2017 MVP, one of two Dodgers to hit 20 home runs in the first 20 games of the season. For a short while there, he had a batting average of .409, which is major! And even at .365/.37, still has the best average of any ball player this season thus far. And… he’s easy on the eyes.

But as the video shows they were documenting some of this (some I’ve just been up-to-date on), he was interviewed asking how does it feel to be on the streaj he’s on right now and he simply said it felt great. But there’s so much more he still needs to do.

I thought that was a great answer. Great that he acknowledged his victories but also was humble enough to know he could still be better. Do better. Go after better. Be better. Just… be more better of himself. I know for me, when things are good, I want to stop and enjoy the fruit of my labor. I want that instant gratification of reward. Forgetting that this victory, is one of many I need to get to where I really want to be.

But much of the time, a victory is measurement; a sign we are on the right track. It’s not a reason to slow down or slack off. Or even theendif our work. But a reminder to push ourselves even harder. Is it possible to push ourselves too hard? Absolutely! But a push that we have more ground to cover isn’t. In fact, it’s necessary.

Because no matter how good it feels to be the victor, if where we are is not completely where we want to be, keep pushin‘. Keep going strong. Even when things are already good. Don’t slack off. Keep pushin’

Until you wind where you’ve always planned.

Stay Motivated: Never Say “No”, Because of An “I Don’t Know”

I receive a text earlier this afternoon from a prospect notary client asking for a notary presenter service. Having never performed this service before, my first thought was, huh?

In the short year and a half I’ve been a notary, I have never been asked to provide this particular service. Every notary service has been me stamping, me witnessing signatures and other people signing. In a nutshell, at least. So when I got this request, I was dumbfounded. I first wanted to reply back and say “no and good luck”. I didn’t want to perform a service that I hadn’t done before and I definitely didn’t want to mess it up. Notary services are considering legal services . That’s why we’re all require to take out a bond. I happen to also be insured.

But then it dawned on me I wasn’t doing what I tell everyone else to do: Google it. Had this been anyone else dealing with me, I would have very strongly suggested they Google whatever they didn’t know. So that’s exactly what I did. And it took a few clicks and opening pages to confirm that I understood what this client was asking of me. I read and reread the information until I felt comfortable responding back to the client and negotiating a fee.

I responded back about an hour and half later after their text and unfortunately, they had found someone else to perform the service. But I don’t feel bad. I don’t feel like I missed out, even though I’m not the notary they’re using. I would have felt like I missed out had I said no without even trying to understand what was being asked of me. But now that I took the time and researched the service in greater detail, I feel confident in handling this in future should I ever be asked again.

What did Wayne Gretzky say?

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”

Get Motivated: Get Away

Today I took a short day trip to San Juan Capristrano. It’s one of the 23 missions here in Cali along or close the coastline that were built by the Spanish missionaries and colonists way back when. And I can’t recall ever having gone to a missionary prior to today, but it was such a wonderful and relaxing experience. To be able to get away from the city for a few hours and enjoy the splendor of natural beauty and historical architecture was just wonderful.

I needed this. This break. These moments away from the demands of life, whether they be demands I placed on myself or that others have placed on me, it’s refreshing to escape.

So I did.

And I enjoyed it. And I felt completely inspired and uplifted just walking among the flowers, watching the few swallows fly by. I felt… rejuvenated.

I needed that. We need that. I can’t think of a single reason why we hustlin’ women should avoid these opportunities. We need these elements in our lives just as much as the next hard working person. And we need to remind ourselves to take those moments to stop, escape and find time rejuvenate. Burnout is not cute or rewarding.

Get Motivated: It’s Better to be Prepared and Not Have an Opportunity…

I love the adage: It’s better to be prepared and not have an opportunity than to have an opportunity and not be prepared. I take those words to heart. I mean, I travel to work five days a week with my notary journal, my notary stamp, blue pens and cah (singles and small bills to break large bills when clients pay with cash). I don’t allow myself to miss a notary opportunity if I can help it. And I carry all my supplies in a gently used brown leather briefcase just feminine enough to go with any business casual attire I don on, but professional enough to be taken seriously.

Just last week, I had a client email me asking to meet them within an hour and 45 minute window, however, I didn’t get the message (because they emailed rather than called me) until 40 minutes from their requested time. Oh, but I was on my way. And on time, needless to say. And… was greeted graciously because I had shown up on time before they could even respond back to my email message. That was a little risky on my part because for all I knew, they could’ve gotten someone else to notarize the documents. But fortune was on my side.

Take a risk, earn the reward. But not every risk is greeted happily with a reward. It’s still worth the risk.

I was a little late to work. But I texted my office I’d be 15 minutes late. In the name of an opportunity I refused to miss, unbeknownst to them.

I strongly encourage you stay prepared. Days and weeks and months may go before you’re greeted with an opportunity, but when you get it, it feels good knowing you had all the preparations made in advance. The reward feels good.

Get Motivated: (Whispers) Did You Finish Your Taxes?

Okay, so maybe I’m a little late asking this question, but I am curious… did you get your taxes done? It’s April 15th and Uncle Sam — who already knows how much you’ve earned last year as well as how money you owe or will be getting back — wants to know did you take the time to tell him again about your earnings. And not risk disturbing the restless giant that is the IRS, I want to make sure you’re on “its” good side as far as timelines.

Listen, I procrastinated too this year. I really dragged my ass when it came to filing my taxes, but once I started I was happy to have gotten it over with. Now, I’ll just wait to for my state return to be deposited in my savings account, which I’ve also nicknamed “Dream Home Fund”. And I’ll wait to see if I’ll get my measly federal return or will William D. Ford of the Department of Education apply it to my stagnant student loan bill.

Exciting things when it comes to taxes.

Point being, I hope you finished filing your taxes. The idea of requesting a an extension doesn’t sound fun. It sounds more like pulling off a band aid really slowly.

Stay Motivated: Reset, Restart Re-Do

One of the biggest challenges to keeping a goal and staying focus is getting off track. And it will happen. You will fall off track. We all do. I mean, unless you have amazing will power and an unshakable force built already inside you, you will stumble getting to the finish line.

But that doesn’t mean anything. If you get off track, just get back on. Simple, right? Because it is! Don’t make a big fuss about it. We all get distracted or overwhelmed or even fed up. We’re human, ladies. And we deal with a lot in our lives day to day. So when a distraction comes along or we become impatient, or it seems like too much for us and we just stop trekking to the end, that’s okay. Take that moment to pause. And then… reset, restart or redo whatever it was you were working towards. We’re not aiming for perfection. We’re aiming for accomplishment. And those two are not mutually exclusive.

And when do reset or restart or redo, don’t wait till the next week or month to get back on track. That’s too long. If the next opportunity is the very next day, jump on it. What about that whole notion of pausing? Well, when you catch yourself off track, let that day go. Be at peace that you weren’t your best that day. Then, get ready to start anew tomorrow.

Because you can. And you should. We got big dreams and big things to accomplish here and we’re gonna need to stay motivated to do it, ladies. So fall track, it’s all right. Just make sure you get back on.