Stay Motivated: If At First You Don’t Succeed..

Don’t just try again… try something different!

Yes, I’m guilty of this too and it’s not always easy to decipher between waiting for your breakthrough and wasting time, but it’s a fine line that we ladies gotta figure out. I say in this in exasperation of someone else’s struggle I’m all too aware of. And even thought I know she is doing what she can and she’s persistent in her approach, her approach is outdated.

Maybe “outdated” is the wrong word choice here. Her approach isn’t working. She’s been working on the same project for 18 months, going about it the same way — and rather than getting more hits and inquiries, she’s getting fewer – but despite the drop off of her work, she hasn’t changed her method, or approach her problem from a different lens. She keeps doing the same ol’ shit. Complaining about the same lack of hits and connections. Dealing with the same ol’ frustrations.

And maybe she’s so in the thick of it she can’t see the forest for the trees, but how long does she (or even “we”) need to go on doing the same thing expecting a different outcome? You know what would be called?

Ladies, why do we struggle to get out of the rut? Is it because it’s all we know? Is it because we really don’t want to challenge ourselves any further than we have? Because it’s easier to remain complacent and content where we’re at? But then why do we complain? I’m gonna ask that everyone who is working through something – personal, professional, passsion-related – whatever it is, don’t hang onto your method because you think you’re supposed to. Don’t keep doing the same things because it’s how you’ve been taught or all you know. Don’t keep suffering in silent or dealing with something because you think this is how it’s supposed to go. Things change for the better when we change for the better.

Let those habits and practices go that aren’t serving you and holding you back. Make changes to make change.

Staying Motivated: Helping Others

In the past two, maybe three months, I have been asked to help another aspiring notary with getting her business off the ground. She reached out to meet via one of my Craigslist ads and asked if would I be willing to meet her and help her with some ideas. After several email messages, I agreed to talk by phone.

This woman, Claudia, emailed stating she just got her notary package, and is an Accounting student and wanted to see if I’d take her under my wing. My first thought to her email was, wow. How brave must she have been to reach out and ask if I could help her in pursuit of her career. Which is weird because isn’t that how we’re suppose to approach getting to the next level? Asking for help? Reaching out? Getting advice from people who are already doing what we want to do?

Strange how the right path seems like the weird path to take, huh?

She emailed saying she was in the Long Beach area and wouldn’t mind taking taking clients I received in this area. Well, of course she wouldn’t mind taking on clients further away from my service area as it would business for her. Little does she know, I’ve serviced clients in that area and will continue to do so as long as I’m able to, but if I’m not. I’d be more than happy to hand them off to her. But I understood where she was coming from.

My second thought when I read Claudia’s email was, is there something I’m doing that makes people think I’m successful at it? That’s okay if it is, I’d just like to know what they’re seeing that maybe I’m not. But the truth of the matter is, we are responsible for helping others when we can no matter if we think or success is large, small or nonexistent. I’ve myself have had help along the way. So I can’t deny helping someone else if I’m in a position to do so.

And yes, this means I am helping someone who will be in direct competition with me. Some… what. She may be able to execute notary services according to the requirements of California per her commission, but she can’t do it the way I can. She can’t be me. She can’t come up with the same ideas as I do. She can’t create the same marketing ideas I’ve had. She can only do her and I can only do me.

Even as hustlers, we can’t be afraid to help someone else on their hustle even if it seems like their competition. For all we know, it could be the catalyst for other opportunities as well…

Staying Motivated: Getting Back on Track

July was a very loose month for me and August is looking the same, but before lose the progress I’ve made and want to continue to make, I thought I reel myself and see what’s causing the lack of focus and the diversion.

Elle and I were talking about less than a week ago obstacles, more specifically, obstacles each of us wwre facing in hopes to understand what is holding us back. Everyone talks about the next level and leveling up, but, many of us – myself included – have road blockers, things are that stand in our way for getting to the level of success we want to achieve. But we may not always know what that is. I don’t. But slowing down and putting goals and activities on hiatus isn’t going to help me figure it out. Nor will it help anyone else out.

Taking small breaks are fine. Staying in break mode, not so much. So, I’m going to be revving up. As much as i can durng the last months of the year. I’m getting back on track, making clearer short and long term measurable plans in hopes that when I reach a roadblock, it will be clear what it is. Fear, uncertainty, commitment, whatever is, I want to name it so I can distinguish it when I come across it again. And of course, overcome it each time we cross paths.

Staying Motivated: Buh-Bye, July

July isn’t quite over yet, but it’s time we say goodbye to July. I found myself working a little harder and a little longer each day, evaluating each of my efforts and figuring out which steps are going to take me to where I want to me. And in the midst of working and pondering, I’ve been slipping with writing and keep you in the loop. Not much to report, but I haven’t been sharing as I normally do.

So, I blame July. It’s hot. It’s summer. I’m irritable when I’m physically warmer than I have to be so when summer comes each year, I blame the season for my lack of work. And obviously the heat, it brings. But we got four months left in 2019. And when 2020 rolls around, I don’t want to be celebrating the new year and what’s to come. I want to celebrate the year whose ass I just kicked.

So, come back. Join me as we continue to kick ass and take names later. We’re gonna kick things into high gear and see what we can be grow and blossom in the next 120 days or so.

Bye, July. It was nice knowing you… not!

Staying Motivated: Took a Short Hiatus

Hey, hey, hey… good evening, everyone.

I know I was a little radio silent last week. I hadn’t deserted you or the blog. Just needed a week to step away and regather my thoughts and make some plans. Such as… I’ve been working on recruiting another contributing writer for thr blog. Waiting for her confirmation, so I’m excited about that.

Beem brainstorming about my next venture as a side hustle coach. Nervous and excited. Nervous about the execution of the busines more than anything. Still brainstorming the name. Working on creating programs for the new ventures. Just working with the momentum I have and trying to do big things quietly.

So, let’s continue to march forward .

Get Motivated: Meet, Network, Chat Up, Repeat

Yes, I’m still high from attending the Girlboss Rally this weekend. And over those two days, I was reminded of something very important we women do but shouldn’t: we carry the burden of work – whatever work we do – all alone as if we’re the only ones experiencing our sort or level or dedication and standard.

Taking a page from the business consultant, Ivy Slater, we get more work done when we ask for support. Whether we need to go to a women’s conference such as the Girlboss Rally to be reminded of this. Or if need to ask out closest friend, like Elle is to me, to contribute to our blog, we need to ask for support. We need to network. Meet up with other like minded women, share our work or what we’re working on. Not for validation or for compliments. But for support. Our there is our tribe… let’s meet them halfway.

Stay Motivated: Burnout Sucks

And I know this from personal experiences. Not one time. Multiple times. And because I’m so hungry to get a viable business of my own up and running successfully, I’ve burned myself out multiple times.

What is burnout exactly?

Stretching yourself – the things you’ve committed to accomplish – so thin that you feel overwhelmed and inundated that you no longer want to do anything. If you have clients in the pipeline, burnout sucks ten times more. Because finding the strength to encourage and hype yourself up to continue forward is harder when you’ve given your word and deadline.

Side hustlers are not immune to burnout just because their projects or freelance work is on a smaller scale. Every business started small and probably went the the same frustrations you’ve felt.

I would equate about 20% of my past failures are due to burnout. Simply because when you get to that burnt out stage, it’s hard to stay motivated long enough to pull yourself out. It’s hard to reignite that fire. Burnout can take you over for weeks or months. And I won’t begin to tell you how many projects and opportunities you can miss in that time.

But there are signs of burnout you can look out for to better avoid fizzing out especially when you’re juggling so much already.

For starters, get sleep. I should be telling myself this, but I’ll start with you. Get as much sleep as your day will allow. Right now I’m getting 6 hours of sleep a night. So when I get home, it’s hard to find the will to work on client’s work. I need at least 7.5 hours of sleep a night. No joke. I need to feel rested in order to feel productive. And I’m sure you do too.

Find small wins. Sometimes clearing your bed off is enough. Don’t laugh. I know it doesn’t sound like much, but just completing one small task will make you feel you get can get things done.

Self care yourself. Mediate. Soak your feet. Take a bath. Listen to bossa nova music on YouTube. Have a couple of glasses of wine. Pull yourself away from work and physically feel free even if it’s only for a little bit.

Take a week off. If you can’t take a week off from work, take a week off from your projects. I had to learn to take breaks early on so I wouldn’t break down. That drive yourself into the ground philosophy is not a healthy approach and you cannot sustain that way. So don’t do it. Having bouts of power boosts, sure! Keeping that intensity up for a year… uh, good luck. ‘Cause you’re gonna need a break shortly after that mental marathon.

Point being, don’t let yourself burn our especially if you’re working towards a bigger goal with your side hustle. Take time to really become someone and create something you can be proud of without falling apart.

Stay Motivated: Check-In With Your Tribe

I’ve been guilty of drowning in my own mess of stuff that I forget to check in on other people who I enjoy having in my life, who I value and who I consider to be a part of my tribe. I make excuses trying explain or justify that I gotta just do me. That something something came up. Or, maybe I just avoid calling the person. But we, as women, are not only great communicators. We are extremely empathetic and sympathetic. For us not to be in touch with one another is a great loss to our connection.

So since everyone (ideally) is checking the bank accounts, how much they’re saving and the improvements their budgets could use, check in on your friends. Check in your loved ones. Definitely check in on your tribe! Make sure they’re doing all right. Offer yourself to their aid. Make yourself available in the near future. Your tribe is in your life for a reason and not just to bounce ideas off, but to bond. To share experiences. To connect.

If you haven’t sent that text, or Instagram message or email. Do so. Most people my age don’t call. But I do, because I play an adult in real life. So I also call. I do my best to remind myself that just like I have days I get caught up. The same applies to them.

So, check in on your tribe. Make sure everything is good with them. Connect. You’re on each others team for a reason.

Stay Motivated: Keep Going Especially When Things Are Good

I’m hoping to go to another Dodger’s game this Friday. They’re playing Cubs. Not that it matters, as I would watch any game they play. Huge fan. And as I’m getting in the spirit of the game to come, I pulled up YouTube and watched a couple of docuseries about Cody Bellinger. 2017 MVP, one of two Dodgers to hit 20 home runs in the first 20 games of the season. For a short while there, he had a batting average of .409, which is major! And even at .365/.37, still has the best average of any ball player this season thus far. And… he’s easy on the eyes.

But as the video shows they were documenting some of this (some I’ve just been up-to-date on), he was interviewed asking how does it feel to be on the streaj he’s on right now and he simply said it felt great. But there’s so much more he still needs to do.

I thought that was a great answer. Great that he acknowledged his victories but also was humble enough to know he could still be better. Do better. Go after better. Be better. Just… be more better of himself. I know for me, when things are good, I want to stop and enjoy the fruit of my labor. I want that instant gratification of reward. Forgetting that this victory, is one of many I need to get to where I really want to be.

But much of the time, a victory is measurement; a sign we are on the right track. It’s not a reason to slow down or slack off. Or even theendif our work. But a reminder to push ourselves even harder. Is it possible to push ourselves too hard? Absolutely! But a push that we have more ground to cover isn’t. In fact, it’s necessary.

Because no matter how good it feels to be the victor, if where we are is not completely where we want to be, keep pushin‘. Keep going strong. Even when things are already good. Don’t slack off. Keep pushin’

Until you wind where you’ve always planned.

Stay Motivated: Never Say “No”, Because of An “I Don’t Know”

I receive a text earlier this afternoon from a prospect notary client asking for a notary presenter service. Having never performed this service before, my first thought was, huh?

In the short year and a half I’ve been a notary, I have never been asked to provide this particular service. Every notary service has been me stamping, me witnessing signatures and other people signing. In a nutshell, at least. So when I got this request, I was dumbfounded. I first wanted to reply back and say “no and good luck”. I didn’t want to perform a service that I hadn’t done before and I definitely didn’t want to mess it up. Notary services are considering legal services . That’s why we’re all require to take out a bond. I happen to also be insured.

But then it dawned on me I wasn’t doing what I tell everyone else to do: Google it. Had this been anyone else dealing with me, I would have very strongly suggested they Google whatever they didn’t know. So that’s exactly what I did. And it took a few clicks and opening pages to confirm that I understood what this client was asking of me. I read and reread the information until I felt comfortable responding back to the client and negotiating a fee.

I responded back about an hour and half later after their text and unfortunately, they had found someone else to perform the service. But I don’t feel bad. I don’t feel like I missed out, even though I’m not the notary they’re using. I would have felt like I missed out had I said no without even trying to understand what was being asked of me. But now that I took the time and researched the service in greater detail, I feel confident in handling this in future should I ever be asked again.

What did Wayne Gretzky say?

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”