Happy Friday: We’re Here

Happy Friday, ladies. It’s the end of a beautiful week for most and as we come to this week’s end, I have some somber news to share. And I hope Elle doesn’t mind me sharing this information on her behalf.

Today, we will not be having a Foodie Friday. Elle is taking time today and however long she needs to talk with her relatives and be there in the spirit as they share a loss of a loved one. One of ther eldest brothers passed away a day or two ago and the family is reeling from this unexpected news. She and I talked about it gently yesterday. She needs this time to process and grieve and we’ll respect that.

I’ve lost many loved ones over the years and I know how death affects people differently. How we cope is different and we all need our own time and space to deal in whatever manner is best for us.

So, this Friday if I can impart any knowledge or good will, it would simply be to let the people you love know you love them. Let them know you care about them. Reach out to them. Give them a call. Send them a text. Drop them an email. Don’t let too much time pass by before you connect with the ones you love.

Happy Friday: Reignite Our Flame

“Today is going to be wildly successful…”

Although this week hasn’t completely felt like it. I’m in a slumpy week despite accomplishing some big ticket items I thought I’d be behind on.

I invited a consultant/coach to speak at one of the programs I ran Tuesday evening and the topic was owning the Boss Lady in ourselves and she challenged us to make two boss lady moves in the next two months, reminding us that we’ve always had this power to go big and go hard. We just needed to harness it and use it more often. And stop listening to all those outside voices and even our own self doubt.

And that is how I’ve been trying to handle the week. As if I have the power to make the call and tackle more and push myself a little harder. Telling myself I got this. And I just needed to remind myself that I do.

So, if you had a slumpy week as well, maybe it’s time to make some boss lady moves to reignite your flame and start feeling like your awesome selves once again. I’ll join you.

Happy Friday.

Happy Friday: Say It, Own It

Today is going to be wildly successful and I am moving closer to my goal of becoming successfully and abundantly self employed.

That is my mantra. Every morning.

While the water is running for my shower creating a light steam in the bathroom, before the construction workers have gotten to work with all their banging and drilling, while the morning is still relatively quiet, and school children shuffle along in pairs or in groups through alley ways off to school, this is my mantra.

Every morning.

Say these words. I own these words. I believe these words.

It makes every day better. It makes every new opportunity that more thrilling. It makes the start of every day exciting. It makes all that I do and all I put in and put up with much more worth.

What do you tell yourself every morning in order to tackle your day?

Happy Friday: Everything Happens For a Reason

So, it’s been a bittersweet week. My nearest and dearest, Elle, is back in North Carolina. She left a month and half earlier than her orginal plans because the people she drastically changed her life for… well, let’s jsut say no matter how well we think we know people, they can always surprise. And not always in the way we like. I’m sad she’s gone, but I know this will give me an excuse to visit her in North Carolina.

But, she plans to move back to L.A. officially when the time is right. It feels like a best friend is moving out state and I’ll never see them again. And in a way, much for that did happen. But these past four months have been wonderful to have her back and I’m sad to see her go. She’s part of my tribe. She’s my sounding board, my confidant. My business sister.

But we’ll reconnect in person in due time. I am happy for her she’ll finally get the peace of mind she lacked while she was here. They say, everything happens for a reason.

Happy Friday: Keep It Moving

Happy, happy, happy Friday, ladies! April never looked so good. I’m really enjoying Spring right now. Hope you are too.

Well, I’ve been finding my momentum and kicking up a little speed. Enough speed to keep up everything I got going on and finding a nice balance to it. Managing my time better, particularly. And as easy as it sounds, it’s not. I mean, in a perfect world, it would be.

But things happen. I leave work late. Traffic through downtown is always hot mess, especially anywhere near on an on-ramp. I’ll get a same day notary client I need to see. Email correspondences I’ve neglected from earlier in the day. Over the course of a few minutes, it feels like there’s always something coming up making it harder to get important projects completed.

So I schedule in myself. I schedule myself in my calendar like I was one of my freelance clients. I block off a few hours a week and only work on stuff for me during that block. And it helps. More than I thought it would. I don’t get everything done but I get the ball rolling and as long as the ball is moving, so am I. For the moment, that’s what I’m gonna do.

Keep it moving.

Happy Friday: Happy Where I’m At

It’s finally starting to feel more like spring and less like summer after that crazy winter we had in February. Finally. And as the weather takes shape hopefully rounding off to a normal season, I want to wish my hustlers a Happy Friday. And may you be happy where you’re at.

Wait. I don’t mean to imply that you need to stop hustling and “love the one you’re with”, but rather love where you’ve taken yourself thus far.

I am great at beating myself up and not acknowledging how far I’m come with what I want to do for myself and my life. I always believed that if I didn’t accomplish what I had set out to do, I hadn’t succeeded in life yet.

Ouch. That’s a pretty harsh self reflection of you think about it. Nothing happens overnight and anything worth having will require hard work. So to tell myself that I’m not a success because A, B and C haven’t been conquered is to negate all the work I’ve already put in.

We side hustlers put in A LOT of work and time that most people never see. And it matters. The time we take to invest, to market, the pitch, to follow-up, to meet up and to grind all matters. Our hustle matters. It’s part of our successful journey and our small wins.

So we may not be living in the high rise lofts or mansions homes yet as a result of all our hard work, but we’re getting there. Today, we’re going to be happy where we are because of what we’ve done… so far.

Happy Friday: Getting Back on Track

Happy, happy Friday, ladies.

I feel good. It’s April. Spring has really arrived to L.A. although it feels like Summer instead of Spring some days. I hope everyone’s week has been going swimmingly. For me, I am getting back on track. And I’m perfecting a better schedule to make sure I’m as successful for this quarter and the rest of the year.

That’s the goal, it always seem. Feels like I’m always chasing that goal – to be more successful – but that’s okay with me. I like having goals and I like having things to look toward. Otherwise… I don’t know. I couldn’t imagine what life would be and I had nothing to hope for, work toward, dream of and live for. Life then would truly be empty.

Not to sour the morning so early but I hope all you ladies are dreaming (but awake, though). Dreaming about your futures, your goals, your ambitions, whatever it is that wakes you up every day other than your alarm.

Stay dreamin’.

Happy Friday: Getting Up From Being Down

Good Morning, good morning, good morning.

I don’t know about you, but March has been kicking my a**! Oh, my goodness. It seems like right when I plan to get everything back on track, here comes something to run over me and knock me down again.

Most recently…a damn cold. Like I really had time for this. I had plans. I had a new client to meet, I had people in my network to meet up with… hell, I had Female, Single + Hustlin’ to keep up with and struggled to do so. I don’t have time for a cold and to be bedridden.

My February was rockin’. I accepted a new job at another company, put my one week notice in, took my birthday off to play in Palm Springs, started said new job, they flew me to New York to meet the headquarter team. Got to catch up with family while I was there. All in all, February was astounding. But, March… March is tearin’ up my behind. With no relief in sight.

Like with every other challenge I’ve had to face, I just got get back on the horse and giddy up to the pace I was riding at. Or maybe my cold is my body’s way of telling me I need to take better care of myself while I work and hustle so I have fewer of these moments.

My girl, Elle, would know…

Happy Friday: Feelin’ Good

Happy, happy Friday.

And happy Women’s month and International Women’s Day. I wanted to give a little nod to the women who have come before us, the women who are crushing it now and the women and will be breaking all kinds of barriers in the future.

I don’t know about you, but I am feeling good! Yes, ma’am, I am! And not because of the weekend because I’ll be working Saturday. Just because. I’m in a really good place right now I want keep up this feeling and I want it to grow. Most importantly, I want to harness it to the best of my ability without being consumed by obligations and to-do lists. But regardless of all that, I feel good, I feel real good.

And… I’m happy to announce a new contributing writer to the Female, Single and Hustlin’ family. She’s my dearest and bestest friend. I’ve known her since high school. We’ve reconnected after college and been on this entrepreneurial spirit journey for ages, it seems. Her name is Elle. She’s going to be sharing a little bit about her latest business venture that deals with wellness. And hopefully help us hustlers find a better way to take care of ourselves while we’re on the grind.

You’ll be hearing from her every Friday. Please show her some love, as we should support every hustler and aspiring entrepreneur here!

Happy Friday: Working On It

Happy happy Friday, everyone!

I hope your February is going swimmingly this far. As for me, hell yes!! Today, I start my new job in Downtown L.A. Happy to be starting this next chapter of my career. Super excited about it. Nervous as well. But I figure if I wasn’t nervous about my new job and doing a job, then this transition wouldn’t be a good next step.

But it is. And I feel it’s going to help me with so many other things I want to accomplish professionally in the coming years. I’m just going to absorb as much as I can and take it all in.

I’ll still be hustlin’, I’ll still be grinding and taking on gigs here and there as it fits in my schedule. Nothing on that front changes. And it shouldn’t. Lots of times when we start making more money and get a promotion or move up in some way, we begin to push ourselves less and rest on our laurels thinking we’ve already proven to world what we can do. We plateau. I never want to plateau. I never want to be done. If I’m done, then I need to be dead. And if I’m dead, then I’m empty. I have finished everything I set to do, living every dream I wanted to live and have nothing else to give.

But, no. So faaaarrrr from that. Right now I’m it working it to work to where I want to be. As I know we all. Me, I’m still just working on it.