Happy Friday: Say It, Own It

Today is going to be wildly successful and I am moving closer to my goal of becoming successfully and abundantly self employed.

That is my mantra. Every morning.

While the water is running for my shower creating a light steam in the bathroom, before the construction workers have gotten to work with all their banging and drilling, while the morning is still relatively quiet, and school children shuffle along in pairs or in groups through alley ways off to school, this is my mantra.

Every morning.

Say these words. I own these words. I believe these words.

It makes every day better. It makes every new opportunity that more thrilling. It makes the start of every day exciting. It makes all that I do and all I put in and put up with much more worth.

What do you tell yourself every morning in order to tackle your day?

Happy Friday: Everything Happens For a Reason

So, it’s been a bittersweet week. My nearest and dearest, Elle, is back in North Carolina. She left a month and half earlier than her orginal plans because the people she drastically changed her life for… well, let’s jsut say no matter how well we think we know people, they can always surprise. And not always in the way we like. I’m sad she’s gone, but I know this will give me an excuse to visit her in North Carolina.

But, she plans to move back to L.A. officially when the time is right. It feels like a best friend is moving out state and I’ll never see them again. And in a way, much for that did happen. But these past four months have been wonderful to have her back and I’m sad to see her go. She’s part of my tribe. She’s my sounding board, my confidant. My business sister.

But we’ll reconnect in person in due time. I am happy for her she’ll finally get the peace of mind she lacked while she was here. They say, everything happens for a reason.

Happy Friday: Keep It Moving

Happy, happy, happy Friday, ladies! April never looked so good. I’m really enjoying Spring right now. Hope you are too.

Well, I’ve been finding my momentum and kicking up a little speed. Enough speed to keep up everything I got going on and finding a nice balance to it. Managing my time better, particularly. And as easy as it sounds, it’s not. I mean, in a perfect world, it would be.

But things happen. I leave work late. Traffic through downtown is always hot mess, especially anywhere near on an on-ramp. I’ll get a same day notary client I need to see. Email correspondences I’ve neglected from earlier in the day. Over the course of a few minutes, it feels like there’s always something coming up making it harder to get important projects completed.

So I schedule in myself. I schedule myself in my calendar like I was one of my freelance clients. I block off a few hours a week and only work on stuff for me during that block. And it helps. More than I thought it would. I don’t get everything done but I get the ball rolling and as long as the ball is moving, so am I. For the moment, that’s what I’m gonna do.

Keep it moving.

Happy Friday: Happy Where I’m At

It’s finally starting to feel more like spring and less like summer after that crazy winter we had in February. Finally. And as the weather takes shape hopefully rounding off to a normal season, I want to wish my hustlers a Happy Friday. And may you be happy where you’re at.

Wait. I don’t mean to imply that you need to stop hustling and “love the one you’re with”, but rather love where you’ve taken yourself thus far.

I am great at beating myself up and not acknowledging how far I’m come with what I want to do for myself and my life. I always believed that if I didn’t accomplish what I had set out to do, I hadn’t succeeded in life yet.

Ouch. That’s a pretty harsh self reflection of you think about it. Nothing happens overnight and anything worth having will require hard work. So to tell myself that I’m not a success because A, B and C haven’t been conquered is to negate all the work I’ve already put in.

We side hustlers put in A LOT of work and time that most people never see. And it matters. The time we take to invest, to market, the pitch, to follow-up, to meet up and to grind all matters. Our hustle matters. It’s part of our successful journey and our small wins.

So we may not be living in the high rise lofts or mansions homes yet as a result of all our hard work, but we’re getting there. Today, we’re going to be happy where we are because of what we’ve done… so far.

Happy Friday: Getting Back on Track

Happy, happy Friday, ladies.

I feel good. It’s April. Spring has really arrived to L.A. although it feels like Summer instead of Spring some days. I hope everyone’s week has been going swimmingly. For me, I am getting back on track. And I’m perfecting a better schedule to make sure I’m as successful for this quarter and the rest of the year.

That’s the goal, it always seem. Feels like I’m always chasing that goal – to be more successful – but that’s okay with me. I like having goals and I like having things to look toward. Otherwise… I don’t know. I couldn’t imagine what life would be and I had nothing to hope for, work toward, dream of and live for. Life then would truly be empty.

Not to sour the morning so early but I hope all you ladies are dreaming (but awake, though). Dreaming about your futures, your goals, your ambitions, whatever it is that wakes you up every day other than your alarm.

Stay dreamin’.

Happy Friday: Getting Up From Being Down

Good Morning, good morning, good morning.

I don’t know about you, but March has been kicking my a**! Oh, my goodness. It seems like right when I plan to get everything back on track, here comes something to run over me and knock me down again.

Most recently…a damn cold. Like I really had time for this. I had plans. I had a new client to meet, I had people in my network to meet up with… hell, I had Female, Single + Hustlin’ to keep up with and struggled to do so. I don’t have time for a cold and to be bedridden.

My February was rockin’. I accepted a new job at another company, put my one week notice in, took my birthday off to play in Palm Springs, started said new job, they flew me to New York to meet the headquarter team. Got to catch up with family while I was there. All in all, February was astounding. But, March… March is tearin’ up my behind. With no relief in sight.

Like with every other challenge I’ve had to face, I just got get back on the horse and giddy up to the pace I was riding at. Or maybe my cold is my body’s way of telling me I need to take better care of myself while I work and hustle so I have fewer of these moments.

My girl, Elle, would know…

Happy Friday: Feelin’ Good

Happy, happy Friday.

And happy Women’s month and International Women’s Day. I wanted to give a little nod to the women who have come before us, the women who are crushing it now and the women and will be breaking all kinds of barriers in the future.

I don’t know about you, but I am feeling good! Yes, ma’am, I am! And not because of the weekend because I’ll be working Saturday. Just because. I’m in a really good place right now I want keep up this feeling and I want it to grow. Most importantly, I want to harness it to the best of my ability without being consumed by obligations and to-do lists. But regardless of all that, I feel good, I feel real good.

And… I’m happy to announce a new contributing writer to the Female, Single and Hustlin’ family. She’s my dearest and bestest friend. I’ve known her since high school. We’ve reconnected after college and been on this entrepreneurial spirit journey for ages, it seems. Her name is Elle. She’s going to be sharing a little bit about her latest business venture that deals with wellness. And hopefully help us hustlers find a better way to take care of ourselves while we’re on the grind.

You’ll be hearing from her every Friday. Please show her some love, as we should support every hustler and aspiring entrepreneur here!

Happy Friday: Working On It

Happy happy Friday, everyone!

I hope your February is going swimmingly this far. As for me, hell yes!! Today, I start my new job in Downtown L.A. Happy to be starting this next chapter of my career. Super excited about it. Nervous as well. But I figure if I wasn’t nervous about my new job and doing a job, then this transition wouldn’t be a good next step.

But it is. And I feel it’s going to help me with so many other things I want to accomplish professionally in the coming years. I’m just going to absorb as much as I can and take it all in.

I’ll still be hustlin’, I’ll still be grinding and taking on gigs here and there as it fits in my schedule. Nothing on that front changes. And it shouldn’t. Lots of times when we start making more money and get a promotion or move up in some way, we begin to push ourselves less and rest on our laurels thinking we’ve already proven to world what we can do. We plateau. I never want to plateau. I never want to be done. If I’m done, then I need to be dead. And if I’m dead, then I’m empty. I have finished everything I set to do, living every dream I wanted to live and have nothing else to give.

But, no. So faaaarrrr from that. Right now I’m it working it to work to where I want to be. As I know we all. Me, I’m still just working on it.

Happy Friday: Next Chapter

I started this site with the frustration of being under employed and overworked, upset with my current employment situation and exploring my options via side hustlin’.

After a couple of years of job hunting I finally landed a better paying job with better benefits and a more manageable schedule, while still working on solidifying and establishing my part time business.

I feel… like a load has been lifted off my back. So thrilled, so relieved….so open to better possibilities. I feel like I’m stepping into the next chapter of my life and it looks so much better than the chapters I’ve left behind.

Will I still side hustle? Hell, yeah!! Not for the financial necessity but rather the joy, the adventure of it and the professional growth of it all.

My next chapter is going up.

Happy Friday: Just Under the Surface

Happ happy Friday! Yes, it’s the freakin’ weekend and I got mad plans going down for February.

Next Tuesday is my birthday and I’ll be turning the big 3-4. Momentous, but I think that of every birthday every year. I’m taking the day off to enjoy myself and the company I’ll be with. I’ll be in Palms Springs for the better part of the day, which is nice. This Saturday I will be shooting my dearest friend, Elissa, at her place for her book promo. She’s dropping a plant based recipe book this June for Newbies, like myself. A must get if you want to incorporate a healthier lifestyle this year.

I’ll be attending a women’s writing workshop this Sunday in the Leimert Park area. Very excited about it since it’s turned into a wait list event, so I’m glad I got in early.

Next Saturday I’ll be hosting my second Discount Notary Day for the year at a new Starbucks location off of La Cienga and Jefferson. Notarizations are $10 that day.

And I am anxiously but patiently waiting to hear back from a job I am hoping to get. I had two successful interviews with over the course of these last two weeks. Been looking at resignation letter examples today. Found the perfect one. It’s one sentence long. Which is the sentiment for where I’m at with my current job and company.

So, yeah, happy freakin’ Friday!!!