My mentor, Brik, would tell me back way back when, anytime I would complain about not having enough time for myself or working on my own projects, to schedule myself on my calendar like I would any other client. If I would make time for them, I would most definitely need to make time for me. And it wasn’t a probably thing. It was I need to make sure I’m making time for the things and projects and goals I’m focused on at least once a week.
If you’re having trouble figuring that out, let me know. I have some great ideas how you can put you on your calendar: email@example.com
But as long as you haven’t given up or quit, you’re still making progress. Your timeframe isn’t someone else’s. When you’re suppose to make it is on another clock separate from someone else’s. Focus on the progress. Focus on you.
At my previous job, there’s a popular acronym that describes someone who has asked for time off: T.O.R. It stood for time off request. And it didn’t matter what the time off was needed for, it all fell under the same category: T.O.R. – jury duty, birthday, bereavement, vacation, personal day, whatever. You would use vacation days for your time off with the exception of sick days. We were given sick days… barely. And because the company didn’t offer personal days, you would have to request time off using a coveted vacation day. It sucked! The same applied to jury duty. A vacation day has to be used for that too.
But time off shouldn’t be a request. It should be requirement. And you may not be in a place right now where you can take time off. Instead, take one weekend day a month and unplug. From everything and everyone. That’s your time off. It’s your time. Take care of it.