Marching Forward in This New Reality

Taking back 2020

I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to take back 2020 and salvage the remaining 9 months of this year. This was supposed to be our year. Our year for greatness, our year for change, our year to get closer to dreams and goals we’ve been busting our asses over.  And now we gotta stay home, be under quarantine and see what happens?

Sorry, not sorry. I’ve never been a ‘shit happens’ kind of gal and I don’t plan to be one. I’m a make-shit-happen kind of woman and I enjoy it. And for a short while, I forgot that. I forgot that I naturally thrive in a little bit of chaos. After all, isn’t chaos the mother of invention and the cousin to creativity? Now, a world pandemic is a little much, I’ll agree. And rising death tolls I don’t jive with. But in the midst of this chaos is new birth and new life to had. And not the life we had before all this went down.

There is no going back.  Sorry folks.  In case someone hasn’t already bursted your bubble, we’re only going forward from here.  Back is the past.  And although it felt great and looked good, especially compared to now, it needed to be improved and improved it will be.  Us included.

I don’t know where everyone stands this morning with job, their business, their finances, their home life, spouse life, parent life, wherever.  All this time at home could be stressful for you or it could be the best thing; something you’ve always wanted.   I don’t know where you fall on the spectrum.  However, I do know  it’s a new month and we can tackle April so much better than we fought through March.  And I want us to do that together. 

Together, we’re gonna look for every opportunity to rise, to shine, to leave it all on the floor knowing we gave our all. Because when we return to the regularly scheduled program under a new network, change and chaos will be the tool we use to strike down opposition and challenges. ‘Cause we would have already done it. Ready?

Real Wednesday: The Juggle Can Be A Struggle

The juggle act is a struggle

I stay reading up on new gig and freelance trends, how other people started their businesses from a side hustle that was started as a necessity. I love learning something new or even coming across something and be like, yeah, I knew about that.

But there’s a common trend I’ve been reading lately, especially in the side gig and start up realms: juggling. More succinctly, juggling your full time job with this new venture, whether it’s a business you plan to start and scale up or a side hustle to make more money.

It’s easy to talk about spending that time after work on your projects, but how many of us actually do? How many of us know how to make that commitment and stick with it? I catch myself on Facebook a few times during the day when I’m at work on someone’s else’s schedule. The struggle is harder to stay pn task when I have no one to answer to but me.

I try using “focused” time, and when I’m all in, it works. But, I’m human. I come home tired. I come home needing to hop on a call. I come home hungry. All real brain activity I have on the regular. I’ve gotten better at it over the years, but again, I’m human.

So I’m wondering, how many of you find juggling your side hustle or business a struggle at times because of just… life?! Let me know: femalesinglenhustlin@gmail.com

“Real” Wednesdays: Overwhelmed, Under-producing

Have too much time but doing too little with it?

I feel like the more time I have to work on my side projects, the less I do and the less I want to do them. And I’m doing my best not to let the getting-home-from-work-and-being-tired thing be my excuse for failing to accomplish small tasks. I mean, we’re all tired after we get home from work. And we all have other things we need to get done, errands to run or just life tasks to handle. Like taxes. I know. I told all of you to do your taxes on January 27th and I still haven’t done mine. In my defense, I attempted to submit them twice and… yeah, just one of the seasons for me. I digress…anyways.

I was trying to commit to using as much of the four or five hours I had from getting home from work to when I went to sleep my own projects, but it wasn’t helping. I wasn’t doing much with the time. I would find myself putting off tasks, waiting till the last minute to get something done and sometimes having to finish it in the morning before heading off to work. No bueno!

I was overwhelmed with so much time to work with that I was under-producing. Completing one task, maybe two. Something had to change because at this rate, I was almost getting nothing done. So, change I figured out what would work best for me.

I’ve actually told a client how to better manage their time, not because I’m this all-knowing creature and I’ve mastered time management…ha!!! NEVER. But she wanted guidance on how to fit time in writing her book after work so she met deadlines and kept on a schedule. Thinking back to my conversation with her, I took my own advice. I scheduled blocks of time. Instead of forcing myself to use 35 hours a week (almost like a whole ‘nother job), I reduced the time I spent focusing on my side projects and goals to increase the amount of work I got done.

I know, it sounds ass-backwards, but work with me here. If you had only 30 minutes to get something done, wouldn’t you be more laser focused than if you had 8 hours to complete it? Or one week? It seems like the more time we have the more time we kill. I don’t know about you, but my time is too valuable to be wasted not knocking things off my list.

So this is what I restructured my time to reflect:

Only two hours a night during my work week and four hours each day on the my weekend days. Weekend hours don’t need to be consecutively completely in one four-block. I can break up the time block to reflect when I have to focus or get things done.

Simple. Easy. Not complicated. Most importantly, easy! Time management should be just that.

What do you do to stay on track and make sure you’re maximizing your time and efforts.

“Real” Wednesdays: The “Enough” Factor

Enough with wanting “enough”

What is it with people – ladies, we’re the biggest culprits of this – with settling for “enough”? Yes, I said settling. What is enough, especially within a society and an economy prone to inflation every year, if not more frequent? What is really enough for someone? How much is enough? Enough for what?

Do you want enough time to get to work everyday even though when you clock in or make it in the office you always look rushed? Because you had just “enough” time. Do you want to have enough money to pay your bills every month knowing that companies sneak in extra fees or raise their rates? What you’re paying for this month may very well be higher than last month. And it most likely higher than last year. Are you going to be able to cover your bills this month if the rates get raise because you think you have “enough”?

This idea of “enough” is dangerous. Why can’t we want more than enough? An abundance of our desires and needs. Is it because we’ll then be seen as greedy? Selfish? Obsessive? I say so what to all that. My “enough” is more than enough. I don’t want to worry about money, so I want more than enough to cover any surprise expenses or emergencies. I don’t want to worry about if someone might break in my apartment so I want more than enough security precautions and measures. I don’t want to worry if I’ll keep my job so I want more than enough good daya where I excel and show my value to the company.

This shaming people who want more than just the measly “enough” others are willing to settle for is ridiculous. Just because someone else’s standards are low or lower doesn’t mean the rest of us can’t want more for ourselves. Go for more than enough. Go for overflow. Go for abundance. And get rid of the just enough people.

“Real” Wednesdays: The Circle You Keep

I’m turning 35 in less than a month. And I’ve been enjoying my 30s as much as peers thus far, I suppose. And I’ve read all the jokes about 30-somethings always going to bed early, staying in, being recluse as we climb the 30s ladder. And you know what I say to that: SO WHAT! 🤣🤣🤣.

I enjoy staying in, sleeping/napping at early hours and enjoying a glass or two of wine. My job, my hustles, and part time business are very client interfacing. I’m working directly with people all of the time. So, when I do go out and enjoy myself with company, I want to spend that time with quality people. My circle of close knit friends is small, yes, but not because people walked away from me or I walked away from them. I’ve just gotten more selective who’ve I spend time with. It matters to me that the people I interact with matter.

And I suspect that matters to most of you too. I mean, with so limited time on our hands, who wants to be around jerks and morons? Okay, not everyone is a jerk or a moron. Most people or doing the best they can too. We’re just on different planes. And it’s easier to relate and connect when we’re on the same plane.

In all seriousness, pick good people to be in your circle. It’ll matter when times are good. And it’ll definitely matter when times are not so good.

Need someone in your tribe? Let’s connect and see what you’re looking for: femalesinglehustlin@gmail.com

“Real” Wednesdays: Power Up, Single Ladies

Single Women Working Power

Hey, hey, hey ladies… have you heard the news? Single ladies have the power! Wait, let me back up.

(Photo Credit: CNN.com)

CNN posted an article back in August of last year (I love saying “last year”) that single working women made up 41% of the buying power in 2019 and by 2030, we will make up 45% of that purchasing power. Making us a huge consumer player in that domestic and global businesses with have to cater to ina more intimate-feed-our-needs kind of way.

And as women earning more and creating our own additional income streams, it’s important to know how companies will respond to addressing the needs of single working women.

For more on that article, check it out at: https://www.cnn.com/2019/08/29/economy/single-women-economy/index.html?utm_medium=social&utm_term=link&utm_content=2019-12-27T06%3A29%3A04&utm_source=fbCNN

“Real” Wednesday: In The Beginning

Getting It Off The Ground

When I went for my notary commission, I spent over $300. This was for the two classes, one for the notary commission and the other for the signing agent training. Then the exam. Then the filing of my notary completion, and paying for the bond and the $25,000 policy insurance I took out to later cover my ass as a working notary public. And I went got my first notary client, I was super nervous, super unsure and super slack about it.

I charged the client $25. $15 for the actual notary service and $10 for the travel fee. And he was my only client for about 3 or 4 months. I didn’t know how anything about marketing myself as a notary. I was new, I was definitely still wet behind the ears and I didn’t want any of my clients to know they would be my first clients as I got the hang of notarizing documents.

I later invested in a business website, business cards and paid marketing on social media and Craigslist. It took some time in 2018, but I was finally able to make the money back I spent in 2017 on getting my commission. Knowing what I know now, I wouldn’t have waited so long to market myself or felt so insecure in something I spent 20 hours getting trained for. Hello!

The reality is that hustling or having a hustle sounds easier than what it is. But it requires a lot of investment and time into yourself. And if you’re not willing to commit to yourself, it’ll be that much harder to commit to a hustle.