WHEN: You Have It Better Than You Think

I will be the first to admit I am awful at taking inventory of all that I do have versus what I don’t have and what I want to have. And it’s easy to do that, to focus on what’s missing or what I need or what I need to save up for. As if my life is truly missing something but it isn’t, at least not missing anything material. Yes, there are things that could be better or in better condition, but I am certainly not without.

I am not without shelter and as the the rents and mortgages keep rising, I should be extremely thankful for that. I am not with a paying job that affords me the opportunities to create side hustles and passion projects. I am not without food. That is a necessity I am happy is covered. My hips don’t lie. I am not without loved ones, who support and encourage my endeavors and aspirations. I am not with goals and dreams. The very elements that make me want to work hard for something more.

I could go on – electricity, in-door plumbing, savings account, public transportation, a car, a phone, a working TV, Netflix – but my point is simple. There’s is nothing wrong with wanting to more for yourself, whatever your “more” maybe. But never forget all that you already have. It definitely puts things into perspective and helps you make wiser and more confident choices. As a hustling lady, we’re always about making wiser and smarter choices for ourselves.

WHEN… You Made A Mistake

I am human. Which means I make mistakes from time to time. That sucks because it can affect my business if I don’t address it correctly or right away.

Right now I am headed to see a client that I saw last Thursday. But not because she had more work for me – which would be lovely – because I made a mistake on one of the documents I notarized for her. And there is no excuse I’m going to give. I made a mistake. But as soon as the woman notified me she needed the document to be redone, I set up a time to meet her the same day – today – so I don’t further inconvenience her or let her think I don’t care.

Because I do.

And in all honesty, I care more about my reputation, so I care how she feels about working with me. So, yeah, I messed up. I am human. But I’m fixing it. All in the day of the life of a hustler.

WHEN… You Made A Mistake

I am human. Which means I make mistakes from time to time. That sucks because it can affect my business if I don’t address it correctly or right away.

Right now I am headed to see a client that I saw last Thursday. But not because she had more work for me – which would be lovely – because I made a mistake on one of the documents I notarized for her. And there is no excuse I’m going to give. I made a mistake. But as soon as the woman notified me she needed the document to be redone, I set up a time to meet her the same day – today – so I don’t further inconvenience her or let her think I don’t care.

Because I do.

And in all honesty, I care more about my reputation, so I care how she feels about working with me. So, yeah, I messed up. I am human. But I’m fixing it. All in the day of the life of a hustler.

WHEN: Your Network Expands

It’s been a really long day at work. Like, not overly long in the sense of time, but long in the sense of activities and things taking place. But in my new (I can still call it new?) job, I find my days getting longer and my network getting bigger.

And I’m so okay with that.

I think all I ever wanted from my old job – other than better pay, better benefits, professional development that actually applied to the admin staff, flexible hours and decent coworkers – were opportunities to grow my network and build my career. That’s how I knew that job was a dead end one.

I had no opportunity to network with anyone in my industry because my company thought I wasn’t important enough.

Yeah, I accept that harsh reality now, but I hated it then. I wasn’t good enough to network. Which I translated into my professional goals didn’t matter.

Now, it’s essential to my role that I constantly be networking. Meeting new people, plugging in the programs we offer and the value of my role in the company. Today, I got to meet and hang out (loosely speaking) with the ladies of Sebastian Professional. Later in the day, an actress from the Hart of Dixie stopped by and talked with each one of us. And hugged us and mentioned how much she loved the work we’re doing. So that meant meeting her assistant and a photographer who was there to shoot her on site. Meeting more new people.

This is was networking like for me now. No two encounters are the same. No two experiences are alike. But each one offers of wealth to learn from and people to connect with.

WHEN: You Know Your Pressure Points

Working through a headache right now, not entirely sure if it was brought on my eating so late in the day or by clients who insist on monopolizeing my time. But I’m trying my best to work through the pain. Found some visual aids online how to use pressure points to alleviate the pain in my head. And speaking of pain, my biggest pressure points are time thieves.

Time thrives? These are people who have no regard for your time because they don’t care how they spend their own. I’m sure I’ve ranted about this before. Quite positive, actually. And I’ll continue to rant.

I think it’s absurd that people don’t know how to shut themselves off. Great, you have a lot to say. I can’t and don’t always want to hear I, though. Like many other people don’t want to hear it. And as talkative people, you need to learn to read body language. If someone is backing away from you while you’re talking, they’re trying to escape. If someone is clicking around on the computer while you’re talking, they’re trying to send you a message.

People, please… I beg of you. I envy social butterfly types. I do, really do. But I don’t always have the patience for you. So, please. Become intuitive. Learn when people have had enough. Don’t become a middle of the day pressure point.

WHEN: You Need to Revisit The Dream

I was off site today for work at the Corrections Department for a luncheon for recently released incarcerated women. And they had a small but powerful group of speakers who really spoke to me although they were intended for the other women. The speakers talked about never giving up and pushing through obstacles. And they also talked about following your passion. That’s when my ears perked up.

I forgot the speaker’s name and I could kick myself for it, but she talked about the importance of finding and following your passion. Find what you love and figure out how to make money from it. And I listened. Not because I don’t know this information, but because I needed to hear it again. I needed to be reminded to follow my passion and be happy in what I do.

But all I know is that I want to be my own boss. I need to work for myself. I’m passionate about that. And I need to revisit that goal and that passion. I need to go back to the drawing board. Nothing is perfect but it can always be improved.

WHEN – You Feel All Over The Place

It’s week four since I started a new job with new responsibilities. It’s a position I feel committed to not just because I’m the new kid on the block and I need to prove myself, but also because I actually believe in the mission of the organization. I hold it close to my heart. And with such a close connection to work, other aspects in my life have been feeling rocky.

My circle of friends has always been small but it feels smaller now that I care about doing a good job at my job. Ironic, right? So I’ve unintentionally bailed out on plans I made to hang out. I haven’t reached out to connect, reconnect or meetup. Sadly, other people have had to make the gesture first, but I should be making those connections too. In maintaining healthy relationships, whatever they may be, all parties should be invested… equally.

My side hustles. I still have a few regulars, one new project, but I’m already behind. It sucks. Because it is my side hustling I feel will propel me to my career aspirations. And I’m behind on that? Not good.

So, now I’m working on a plan to get some order back into my life. This new job was suppose to be a financial boost to a short paycheck problem I’ve been experiencing over the past few years. It’s not the be all to end all. But it’s not a position I despise either. I feel this role can be extremely rewarding. Just not all consuming as it feels right now. I really feel all over the place with work, side hustling and my notary business.

Oh, my notary business? I’ve had two clients this month but I haven’t been marketing as strongly as I have been in recent months or should be. Another byproduct of feeling out of sorts

Can anyone relate?

WHEN: You Start Laying the Foundation

It feels good to have something go right in my life plan right now. It really does. And I literally make a life plan every year, very similar to someone who makes a business plan. The only difference between my personal plan and a business plan is that my plans are written out in 6 month increments. And it’s not because I don’t have a vision for myself. I do. Pleeeeasssseee read some of my earlier posts as to my obsession with side hustlin’ and turning my hustles in a self sustaining and successful business. I got vision.

However, a plan requires thought and estimates as to what steps need to be taken. It requires actions that need to be executed to accomplish the goal. And for me, I can only see 6 months down the road as to what I could do to get there. Now, whether I’m correct in assuming what steps need to be taken is one thing. But I study what I’ve been doing to help me gauge where I need to be going.

The other day I was sitting with my friend, Elle, when she stumbled across my 2019 life plan on my kitchen table and saw items that I highlighted in yellow signifying they’ve been accomplished. And she was proud of me. I was proud of me. Understand we were on third bottle of wine that night so we could’ve been in our feelings, but I starting seeing myself in the early stages of my dream. I started seeing the foundation I was laying and had spent so many years working to establish.

It’s not huge. It’s far from completed. But it’s a firm start. It’s my start. And it’s moving me forward.

What does your foundation look like?

WHEN: It Feels Like It’s Falling Into Place

I’m gonna keep this short and sweet, because sweet it is.

I’ve been interviewing for a position at a nonprofit for the past couple of weeks and as of this past Monday they offered me the position and I accepted it. And was thrilled to learn it pays 29% more than what I’m making now, has more benefits and after my first two days, I’ll be flying to New York for a retreat of theirs.

Holla, holla!

This is great news especially having received it on the eve of my birthday. Best birthday gift to myself… ever!!!

But… that doesn’t mean my side hustling days are through. Not by a long shot. It just means I’ll be able to better fund the dream. And the dream is to still be self employed. That’s the prize and my eyes are still on it. But this new job at this new company means I’ll get the opportunity to learn from a real business how to run a business, how to treat employees and because it’s a nonprofit, how to work with what you’ve got. Which I think I got that a handle on that so far.

Yes, it feels like I’m moving closer to the goal and that feels great. One step at a time.

WHEN… You Gotta Remind Others of Your Time

Because no one is going to respect your time the way you will. No one is going uphold your time as valuable as you will. So you will have to remind others your time is not to be wasted just because they waste their time.

Example:

Earlier this afternoon I rescheduled a phone interview with a company for a position I was partially interested in. It was close to home. Offered great perks. Reasonable salary. But my point of contact with the company no showed our first call. I scheduled the call for when I got off of work so I wouldn’t be distracted and be comfortable. Made it home on time. And after waiting five minutes, I called my contact who didn’t respond. Left him a voicemail. Followed up my voicemail with a email to confirm I had the right date and time. A week later, I got a response. He had the flu.

But there was no one else in the office who could’ve filled in for you?

So we rescheduled.

Until he no showed once again.

He had gotten sick… again. Guess who else was getting sick? Me! For putting up with a company that seemed not value anyone else’s time. But I told myself the 3rd time would be the charm.

Today was the 3rd time. No charm. All disappointment.

After waiting 15 minutes, I sent an email letting my contact know that I appreciated him wanting to speak with me and learning more about my skill set for the opening but that I was no longer interested in the position.

And I’m not. Because I can only imagine if this is how they treat the interview process, I would hate to learn how they would treat me as an employee. I think I just dodged a bullet.

As well as had to remind another that my time isn’t to play with. Because it isn’t.

People forget. You are not them. And they need to treat you according to you and not how they treat themselves. You deserve the same.