Good Morning, good morning, good morning.
I don’t know about you, but March has been kicking my a**! Oh, my goodness. It seems like right when I plan to get everything back on track, here comes something to run over me and knock me down again.
Most recently…a damn cold. Like I really had time for this. I had plans. I had a new client to meet, I had people in my network to meet up with… hell, I had Female, Single + Hustlin’ to keep up with and struggled to do so. I don’t have time for a cold and to be bedridden.
My February was rockin’. I accepted a new job at another company, put my one week notice in, took my birthday off to play in Palm Springs, started said new job, they flew me to New York to meet the headquarter team. Got to catch up with family while I was there. All in all, February was astounding. But, March… March is tearin’ up my behind. With no relief in sight.
Like with every other challenge I’ve had to face, I just got get back on the horse and giddy up to the pace I was riding at. Or maybe my cold is my body’s way of telling me I need to take better care of myself while I work and hustle so I have fewer of these moments.
My girl, Elle, would know…
For the longest time, I used to live at the corner of Overwhelmed and Frustrated. My residency there was years. And no matter how badly I wanted to move, it felt near impossible because my current situation felt out of my control. I hated that. I hated wanting more for myself and not being able to do anything about it.
Or so I thought.
I may not have always had the means to change what I didn’t like when I wanted to, but I could at least change my attitude. Cliché, I know, but accurate. You can’t do sh*t with a bad attitude and that’s the gospel truth. I don’t care how badly you want something or want something to change for you, if you’re walking around with a chip on your shoulder or a woe-is-me kind of bag, forget it, honey. You’re canceling out any progress you might be making.
Overwhelmed? I feel ya because I’ve been there. And the best advice I could offer you is two-fold. Find someone to talk with about what’s overwhelming you and why. And count your blessings. Seriously. If you in a position to feel overwhelmed, you’re in a position to feel empowered.
You woke up this morning, right?
You ate something, right?
You have somewhere to lay your head tonight?
You got internet?
I just listed four of your blessings. Give me 6 more.
It is some easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s easy to feel like if you don’t get everything done right this second, you’re failing. And not only are you failing, but you’re also a fraud. For letting people believe that you could handle their project, service their business or charge them for your time. Because you haven’t handled it all right now.
The beauty of “right now” is that there is never a shortage of supply. Right now is right now. Literally and figuratively.
Breathe. You will get it all done. Maybe not right this very second for the the “right” now. Maybe you need to do a little more research. Maybe you have made all the calls or sent every possible email. But when you do. You right now will happen.
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when you don’t allow everything to take the pace it needs to get completed and thorough.
This week, I’ve felt like I’ve been battling my own sanity. And those damn why questions can keep one up so late at night.
Why isn’t my marketing working?
Why don’t I have more clients?
Why does this momentum take so long to build up?
Why do I feel like I’m never doing enough to make what I want happen?
And the juggling act never helps. Family living with me, full time job, part time business, just self published a book, part time gigs. I mean, a
girl lady can start to feel overwhelmed if this keeps up. And I think I was beginning to feel that.
But, I took out one my handy journals — I have a few — and as I plotted what I needed to do to get from where I am to where I want to be, I also included my reasons. Again. Sometimes I need to remind myself what all this is for. Why I pushmyself, why I keep reinventing myself and elements in my life to best fit the long term goal. I needed to remind myself why it is I am betting on myself. Why I know I’m going to make it. Because I am. One way or another. I need get over the “how” and focus on the “will”.
It will happen.
And it will happen for you too, my hustlers. We have our reasons for the hustle, but more importantly, we have our why.
So, Happy Friday to my fellow hustlers. And if you need a little reminder, always bet on yourself!
I just got home. From work. Which would be normal at this time had I went in the office around 9:30am or 10:00am.
But, no. I was there at 7:30am. Left as at 6:00pm. Quite literally I was there from open to close. Well, technically, our West Covina office opens at 6:30am, but whatever. I there for 10 hours. Why 10 hours, you ask? Definitely not from the goodess of my soul. We’ve been short staffed in our department since the middle of March and I’ve been staying overtime when I can. And come to find out this afternoon before leaving work, we’re gonna be short staff another person because her father passed away in the Philippines.
So… that means we go from doing double work in our department to do triple work.
Now, I would love say this why people quit and start their businesses and ventures but it’s now. It’s really not. I’m planning on terminating my job because I don’t feel valued where I work and I’ve never really felt valued. I feel more like I’m a machine that orders are fed into and I’m supposed to spit out. I feel like a Hebrew slave!
But seriously, being continuously piled on with other people’s work and having deadlines being regularly shortened is not my bag. And I get it, life happens to us — the parts of life we can’t control, like the death of a loved and the mental breakdown of a coworker. Shit happens.
But it would be nice if management acknowledged our efforts, especially when it’s for the team. ‘Cause, listen, I can be all about Michelle every day all day long and not give a damn. I really could. But I want to enjoy my work and who I’m working around. Whether it’s in the office for an employer for the short foreseeable future or for myself.
And days like these are reminders… motivators, to some extent, as to why I’m so hell bent on being on my own. I want to control my own happiness. And my happiness, in large part, comes from what I do.
I wonder how many of my tribe feel like this too.