This Week’s Goal: Purging My Apartment

I am of the firmest belief that a tidy and organized apartment is a successful apartment. Or at the very least, can be. However, I am not tidy in the least. Organized? Oh, yeah. Got several systems. Tidy? Not so much. And one would think they go hand-in-hand, but I can prove you wrong in 12 minutes. And it wouldn’t be a very proud moment.

But I’ve been working on purging since the first. I’m not cleaning or scrubbing just yet. Simply getting rid of things that no longer serve me or my goals. I like the idea of minimalism, but I don’t I’m that kind of person. I don’t mind aiming towards a minimal version of my own. But for now, I am just chucking crap that’s useless, pointless and good blocking energy.

I believe a tidy space is also a space that attracts success and good vibes. I also believe working people are going to be a little messy from time to time. I mean, if your desk is spotless and clean all the time, are you really working? I would say not, but we can debate that later. I do want the working spaces in my home to be as tidycas possible when I’m not working in the. So when I go to that space to work, I feel like I can either start anew or pick up where I left off without feeling distracted, overwhelmed or displaced.

So wish me luck. It’s day 24 and although I should be close to being done, that remains to be confirmed till the 30th. And hopefully by then I would have made a huge impact in what I don’t nees. Fingers crossed!🤞🏽

Stay Motivated: Reset, Restart Re-Do

One of the biggest challenges to keeping a goal and staying focus is getting off track. And it will happen. You will fall off track. We all do. I mean, unless you have amazing will power and an unshakable force built already inside you, you will stumble getting to the finish line.

But that doesn’t mean anything. If you get off track, just get back on. Simple, right? Because it is! Don’t make a big fuss about it. We all get distracted or overwhelmed or even fed up. We’re human, ladies. And we deal with a lot in our lives day to day. So when a distraction comes along or we become impatient, or it seems like too much for us and we just stop trekking to the end, that’s okay. Take that moment to pause. And then… reset, restart or redo whatever it was you were working towards. We’re not aiming for perfection. We’re aiming for accomplishment. And those two are not mutually exclusive.

And when do reset or restart or redo, don’t wait till the next week or month to get back on track. That’s too long. If the next opportunity is the very next day, jump on it. What about that whole notion of pausing? Well, when you catch yourself off track, let that day go. Be at peace that you weren’t your best that day. Then, get ready to start anew tomorrow.

Because you can. And you should. We got big dreams and big things to accomplish here and we’re gonna need to stay motivated to do it, ladies. So fall track, it’s all right. Just make sure you get back on.

WHEN – You Feel All Over The Place

It’s week four since I started a new job with new responsibilities. It’s a position I feel committed to not just because I’m the new kid on the block and I need to prove myself, but also because I actually believe in the mission of the organization. I hold it close to my heart. And with such a close connection to work, other aspects in my life have been feeling rocky.

My circle of friends has always been small but it feels smaller now that I care about doing a good job at my job. Ironic, right? So I’ve unintentionally bailed out on plans I made to hang out. I haven’t reached out to connect, reconnect or meetup. Sadly, other people have had to make the gesture first, but I should be making those connections too. In maintaining healthy relationships, whatever they may be, all parties should be invested… equally.

My side hustles. I still have a few regulars, one new project, but I’m already behind. It sucks. Because it is my side hustling I feel will propel me to my career aspirations. And I’m behind on that? Not good.

So, now I’m working on a plan to get some order back into my life. This new job was suppose to be a financial boost to a short paycheck problem I’ve been experiencing over the past few years. It’s not the be all to end all. But it’s not a position I despise either. I feel this role can be extremely rewarding. Just not all consuming as it feels right now. I really feel all over the place with work, side hustling and my notary business.

Oh, my notary business? I’ve had two clients this month but I haven’t been marketing as strongly as I have been in recent months or should be. Another byproduct of feeling out of sorts

Can anyone relate?

Happy Friday: Getting Up From Being Down

Good Morning, good morning, good morning.

I don’t know about you, but March has been kicking my a**! Oh, my goodness. It seems like right when I plan to get everything back on track, here comes something to run over me and knock me down again.

Most recently…a damn cold. Like I really had time for this. I had plans. I had a new client to meet, I had people in my network to meet up with… hell, I had Female, Single + Hustlin’ to keep up with and struggled to do so. I don’t have time for a cold and to be bedridden.

My February was rockin’. I accepted a new job at another company, put my one week notice in, took my birthday off to play in Palm Springs, started said new job, they flew me to New York to meet the headquarter team. Got to catch up with family while I was there. All in all, February was astounding. But, March… March is tearin’ up my behind. With no relief in sight.

Like with every other challenge I’ve had to face, I just got get back on the horse and giddy up to the pace I was riding at. Or maybe my cold is my body’s way of telling me I need to take better care of myself while I work and hustle so I have fewer of these moments.

My girl, Elle, would know…

Get Motivated: Overwhelmed

For the longest time, I used to live at the corner of Overwhelmed and Frustrated. My residency there was years. And no matter how badly I wanted to move, it felt near impossible because my current situation felt out of my control. I hated that. I hated wanting more for myself and not being able to do anything about it.

Or so I thought.

I may not have always had the means to change what I didn’t like when I wanted to, but I could at least change my attitude. Cliché, I know, but accurate. You can’t do sh*t with a bad attitude and that’s the gospel truth. I don’t care how badly you want something or want something to change for you, if you’re walking around with a chip on your shoulder or a woe-is-me kind of bag, forget it, honey. You’re canceling out any progress you might be making.

Overwhelmed? I feel ya because I’ve been there. And the best advice I could offer you is two-fold. Find someone to talk with about what’s overwhelming you and why. And count your blessings. Seriously. If you in a position to feel overwhelmed, you’re in a position to feel empowered.

You woke up this morning, right?

You ate something, right?

You have somewhere to lay your head tonight?

You got internet?

I just listed four of your blessings. Give me 6 more.

WHEN… you have more tasks than time

It is some easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s easy to feel like if you don’t get everything done right this second, you’re failing. And not only are you failing, but you’re also a fraud. For letting people believe that you could handle their project, service their business or charge them for your time. Because you haven’t handled it all right now.

The beauty of “right now” is that there is never a shortage of supply. Right now is right now. Literally and figuratively.

Breathe. You will get it all done. Maybe not right this very second for the the “right” now. Maybe you need to do a little more research. Maybe you have made all the calls or sent every possible email. But when you do. You right now will happen.

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when you don’t allow everything to take the pace it needs to get completed and thorough.

Happy Friday: Betting on Myself

This week, I’ve felt like I’ve been battling my own sanity. And those damn why questions can keep one up so late at night.

Why isn’t my marketing working?

Why don’t I have more clients?

Why does this momentum take so long to build up?

Why do I feel like I’m never doing enough to make what I want happen?

And the juggling act never helps. Family living with me, full time job, part time business, just self published a book, part time gigs. I mean, a girl lady can start to feel overwhelmed if this keeps up. And I think I was beginning to feel that.

But, I took out one my handy journals — I have a few — and as I plotted what I needed to do to get from where I am to where I want to be, I also included my reasons. Again. Sometimes I need to remind myself what all this is for. Why I pushmyself, why I keep reinventing myself and elements in my life to best fit the long term goal. I needed to remind myself why it is I am betting on myself. Why I know I’m going to make it. Because I am. One way or another. I need get over the “how” and focus on the “will”.

It will happen.

And it will happen for you too, my hustlers. We have our reasons for the hustle, but more importantly, we have our why.

So, Happy Friday to my fellow hustlers. And if you need a little reminder, always bet on yourself!

Home…Finally

I just got home. From work. Which would be normal at this time had I went in the office around 9:30am or 10:00am.

But, no. I was there at 7:30am. Left as at 6:00pm. Quite literally I was there from open to close. Well, technically, our West Covina office opens at 6:30am, but whatever. I there for 10 hours. Why 10 hours, you ask? Definitely not from the goodess of my soul. We’ve been short staffed in our department since the middle of March and I’ve been staying overtime when I can. And come to find out this afternoon before leaving work, we’re gonna be short staff another person because her father passed away in the Philippines.

So… that means we go from doing double work in our department to do triple work.

Now, I would love say this why people quit and start their businesses and ventures but it’s now. It’s really not. I’m planning on terminating my job because I don’t feel valued where I work and I’ve never really felt valued. I feel more like I’m a machine that orders are fed into and I’m supposed to spit out. I feel like a Hebrew slave!

But seriously, being continuously piled on with other people’s work and having deadlines being regularly shortened is not my bag. And I get it, life happens to us — the parts of life we can’t control, like the death of a loved and the mental breakdown of a coworker. Shit happens.

But it would be nice if management acknowledged our efforts, especially when it’s for the team. ‘Cause, listen, I can be all about Michelle every day all day long and not give a damn. I really could. But I want to enjoy my work and who I’m working around. Whether it’s in the office for an employer for the short foreseeable future or for myself.

And days like these are reminders… motivators, to some extent, as to why I’m so hell bent on being on my own. I want to control my own happiness. And my happiness, in large part, comes from what I do.

I wonder how many of my tribe feel like this too.