Not everyone is going to be pushing from the same place. Some of us are complete independent contractors and freelancers, some of us still have 9 to 5s and there are many more of us who are various hybrids. Regardless of what combination we are, or where we are, we still got cards to play.
First thing’s first, assess where you are right now in this moment. Are you still working? For an employer or yourself, or both? Has your salary or income been drastically affected? What can you do without to ensure you stay above water? What can do to ensure you stay above water? What aren’t you doing enough of or doing too little of to get through this?
You don’t need to have all the answers today, but you do need to starting penning some of this answers down sooner rather than later if you plan to get through this. This global crisis, pandemic situation is a huge setback. A loss, but not a defeat. And a loss is nothing but a lesson. A teachable moment. A moment for a to grow into.
Where are you now and where would you like to be when this is all said and done?
My goal has always been to be self employed. Fully. No full time job cushioning the dream indefinitely or funding the dream for the long haul. The goal has always been to eventually move into the self employed space and make that my permanent reality. After leaving the Girlboss Rally, I’ve been told I need to be strategic about my goal. And that I could accomplish being self employed in the next two years.
So… this week, and thanks the 4th of July holiday for giving me an extra full day off, I will be working on my strategic plan so that in the next 18 months, I can build the life I want and do the things I’ve always wanted to do.
I enjoy my job. I really do. And it’s ashame this job came so late in the employment game for me. I think if I had this job earlier on, I wouldn’t be so jaded about employers or about working for someone else. I may not have even wanted to work for myself if I had this job earlier. But everything happened the way it did and perhaps, they it was suppose to so I could dream this big dream and have these lofty goals.
I’m a big advocate for building a tribe. I talk about it as work but I also talk about it among my tribe, ironically enough, because I believe so whole-heartedly in having people in our lives that we vibe with. I think it’s important that we have people who understand us and share our ambitions. This dual lifestyle we live isn’t easy. Juggling everything all the time isn’t fun or delightful. And those that aren’t hustling or don’t have a side gig would simply tell us to stop if we’re so tired, or so overwhelmed, or so confused or whatever else we feel so often. But they don’t understand the “why”.
They see someone doing too much and do they say stop. We see someone doing too little and ask why they haven’t started. And then we have a clash of energies. And we do clash with people who don’t get it. We clash with people who aren’t striving for similar self-rewarding goals. They’re just doing enough to get by. That’s fine for them. But obviously, that’s not fine for us. Which is why we hustle. We grind. We strive. We aim. Yet, we also need to understand it isn’t fine to be around the energy of those that do too little.
I don’t know who said it, but I heard that it’s easier to be influenced to do less and give up than it is to do more and achieve. Probably because most people aren’t big on achieving. A lot of people as they get older stop setting goals. They stop making plans. If you want to achieve anything, you need to keep setting goals. You need to keeping aiming for something. People who just want to get by doing the bare minimum have no goals. They have no direction. And they are worst kind of energy to be around.
At least for high achievers and hustlers. See, we have a reason and a purpose for what we do. So when someone tells us to stop, it’s because they are tired of comparing themselves to us. And if we stop working so hard, were just like them. Executing the bare minimum and accepting less from ourselves.
Ladies, don’t. I don’t care who’s telling you to stop or you’re doing too much. Keep up the hustle. You got your reasons and you have your goals. Just focus on that. And those bad energy people, just gently nudge them away. They’re not ready to see success. And don’t they need to be tearing down yours.