I preach so much about how important or freeing it is to have a side hustle that I often forget or ignore the fact that maybe the reason most people don’t have a side hustle is because they don’t want one. I often assume the reason someone doesn’t posses a side hustle is because they dont know of the possibilities a side hustle and the extra income it can offer. What if everyone is aware and only few people seek out side hustling because at the end of the day, a full time job and a side hustle is just too much?
I’m a single woman. And by single I mean I’m not married. I have no husband (or partner if I wanna be P.C. about it), I have no kids, no mortgage, no children’s college I’m funding or ill older parent I’m caring for. A side hustle was made for someone like me. Someone who can remain focused on themselves. Someone whose priority is just them. What if you’re not single? What if you got little ones running around the house? Or a spouse whose income you rely on to help support the mortgage and the bills? Can you still have a side hustle, your full time job and your life?
The technical answer is yes. But the question is, do you want to? Do you want to juggle something else on your plate willingly? Do you want take on odd jobs and gigs. You want to use your spare time on other “work”. I can’t answer that for you. But you know whether or not you could and if the rewards would be worth your time.
So even though this blog is dedicated to the single woman out there hustling to pay her bills and save for that Spain vacation, I want to acknowledge the moms and caregivers who’ve thought about taking on gigs to supplement their income or expand their skill set. I know you have a lot on your plate and you’re taking care of priorities bigger than yourself. You’re not forgotten. You’re just hustlin’ in your own way.
And maybe your answer is yes. You’re willing to use the quiet in the morning when everyone is asleep to start your hustle. Or after you put the kids to bed. Maybe… you just need a little push. If it’s not too much.
It is some easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s easy to feel like if you don’t get everything done right this second, you’re failing. And not only are you failing, but you’re also a fraud. For letting people believe that you could handle their project, service their business or charge them for your time. Because you haven’t handled it all right now.
The beauty of “right now” is that there is never a shortage of supply. Right now is right now. Literally and figuratively.
Breathe. You will get it all done. Maybe not right this very second for the the “right” now. Maybe you need to do a little more research. Maybe you have made all the calls or sent every possible email. But when you do. You right now will happen.
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when you don’t allow everything to take the pace it needs to get completed and thorough.
I just got home. From work. Which would be normal at this time had I went in the office around 9:30am or 10:00am.
But, no. I was there at 7:30am. Left as at 6:00pm. Quite literally I was there from open to close. Well, technically, our West Covina office opens at 6:30am, but whatever. I there for 10 hours. Why 10 hours, you ask? Definitely not from the goodess of my soul. We’ve been short staffed in our department since the middle of March and I’ve been staying overtime when I can. And come to find out this afternoon before leaving work, we’re gonna be short staff another person because her father passed away in the Philippines.
So… that means we go from doing double work in our department to do triple work.
Now, I would love say this why people quit and start their businesses and ventures but it’s now. It’s really not. I’m planning on terminating my job because I don’t feel valued where I work and I’ve never really felt valued. I feel more like I’m a machine that orders are fed into and I’m supposed to spit out. I feel like a Hebrew slave!
But seriously, being continuously piled on with other people’s work and having deadlines being regularly shortened is not my bag. And I get it, life happens to us — the parts of life we can’t control, like the death of a loved and the mental breakdown of a coworker. Shit happens.
But it would be nice if management acknowledged our efforts, especially when it’s for the team. ‘Cause, listen, I can be all about Michelle every day all day long and not give a damn. I really could. But I want to enjoy my work and who I’m working around. Whether it’s in the office for an employer for the short foreseeable future or for myself.
And days like these are reminders… motivators, to some extent, as to why I’m so hell bent on being on my own. I want to control my own happiness. And my happiness, in large part, comes from what I do.
I wonder how many of my tribe feel like this too.